Losing is hard but it’s not a license to be rude and disgraceful. When all eyes are on you, it can feel like a humiliating experience to lose. Who are we kidding? Nobody likes failing after giving their 100% to the task. It can be psychologically and emotionally an uncomfortable experience and if you don’t have the right support and heart, you can go off the railing.
Leaders, especially, have the bug to win every time they participate in something new. They want to come out victorious at any cost – financial rewards are always secondary for them. It’s the psychological satisfaction that excites them the most. They can, at times, be narcissistic with this need to thrive and succeed – to the point where it can be damaging to their self-esteem when they don’t achieve the strived goal in mind.
When you’re in the leading position – corporate or political – your entire being is focused on winning. You read countless books and preach about winning the next bunch of sales, you are restless and driven to take the next leap and find better career opportunities, and you are also vicious with your means to achieve those targets. You want control, status, power, wealth and popularity.
Look – it’s not bad to be career-oriented and driven. Ambition is great and necessary to make your dreams come true. However, what is even more important is to turn fantasies into reality graciously. You need to be able to handle rejections and losses as these uncomfortable experiences prompt change and evolution.
The entire perspective has to evolve if you truly want success because the need to always win is not always helpful – it’s actually counterproductive and toxic. In our society, we lack examples of tolerance – we need to create an environment where even losses are celebrated as they drive you to do better next time. They cultivate a positive mindset and make you a better human being. We have to build workplaces that help you embrace a loss – without making you feel like a loser.
This idea should be promoted by leaders as they are the trendsetters. Thus, we have provided two ways through which leaders can demonstrate how to take a loss in your stride!
You must be thinking, “why is being a loser being promoted here?” but that’s not what we are going on and on about – we are simply trying to establish that losing is not so bad. As a matter of fact, losing improves your performance and keeps you grounded. Like, it’s alright if you scored poorly in one of your class assignments – get assignment help before you begin writing for the next essay.
Anyway, here’s what you can do to promote a culture that accepts losses and nurtures growth.
Purpose Above All
Do you sometimes feel like you’re not able to see the wider picture? Is your win necessary or the outcome that you get out of it?
Like if we have two democrats like Biden and Harris running for the president and we have a republican like Trump on the other side, who do you think should win? It doesn’t matter who wins the seat as long as it’s someone from the Democrats, right? Well, that’s how things need to work. Keep the purpose in mind! Why are you winning? Is it important for you to enjoy the glory, or is it necessary for the message to go out? Do you want leadership to be in the right hands?
Your mission as a fellow democrat after losing should not be to whine and rant about losing and pulling the other participants down – it should be to elevate your voice and motivate your share of voters to vote for Biden or Bernie or whoever who is there representing the right team.
Participate to Play
Winners and losers are made by fate (sometimes hard work) but it’s the journey that determines the actual victory. If you gave your best, found yourself along the way, made new friends, established new associations, and did better for society – did you really lose?
You could go on and on about the experience but can you go on and on about winning? There will come the point where you’d forget about this victory and go on to the next play – and what if you don’t succeed there? Wouldn’t that be a terrifying experience? To witness a loss after such a gratifying win?
Winning should always be your target because it’s great for your confidence and self-esteem but it should be everything. You need to redefine success and winning as a matter of fact.
There will be countless games for you to play in life and you have to make peace with the fact that you can’t win them all – it’s impossible. Just focus your energy on the process because the journey is more empowering and life-changing than the win itself.